METHOD OF LABELING BABY TO PARENTS CAN SLEEP COMFORTABLE
Either way you choose, do not ignore the need for security in the baby. The quality of sleep for babies not only affects physical development, but also their attitude the next day. Babies who sleep enough without waking up frequently will be fitter and less prone to fuss. The benefits can also be felt by mothers and fathers. Parents' sleep quality can be better if the baby is able to sleep soundly through the night. Activities from morning to evening can be carried out smoothly.
The problem is, babies often wake up at night not because of hunger or other disturbances, but as stated by Siobhan Stirling in his book Sleep, most babies wake up in the middle of the night due to changes in sleep phases, from deep sleep to light sleep. Light sleep or REM sleep (rapid eye movement) is a sleep condition characterized by irregular breathing, the body tends to be tense, and the eyes move under the eyelids.
In this condition, the baby is easily awakened from sleep. This type of sleep is experienced by babies from the age of 6-7 months in the womb. Most normal babies sleep in REM sleep. In contrast, deep or non-REM sleep is characterized by being very relaxed, relaxed, lying quietly with a regular heart rate and breathing, and almost no dreams. It is difficult to wake the baby in this sleep phase.
Babies will experience a change in the sleep phase from REM to non-REM. Newborn babies, for example, once fall asleep they enter the REM phase, but the next 20 minutes experience the non-REM sleep phase. Waking up during phase shifts is common. When awakened, the baby may cry and look for the mother. Not infrequently, the mother then breastfeeds or carries the baby many times which of course disturbs the quality of her sleep.
Every few hours, the mother or father must wake up and calm the baby. CHOOSE THE MOST APPROPRIATE WAY If the baby often wakes up in the middle of the night and parents feel the quality of sleep has decreased, it is better to teach the baby to sleep. In fact, he can calm himself down and fall back into a deep sleep after awake for a while. Choose the method that best suits you and your little one, such as the following Stirling offers:
1. BE COLD
This method is the "meanest" method. But as Stirling promises, this method works best. Parents can feel the effect within three days. You do this by putting the baby in bed. After saying good night to him, just stay until he falls asleep by itself.
Most babies will cry as soon as the parent disappears from their sight.
But over time, not getting a response, the baby will give up and eventually fall asleep. It is possible that the baby will cry for a long time. Frankly, this method is very hard and becomes a very difficult choice for parents.
* Tips for success:
- Before starting this method, the baby must be safe and comfortable. Pay attention to the state of the bed, clothes, diapers, and other equipment.
- Willingness, patience, and determination are the recipes for the success of this method.
- If necessary, explain to the neighbors why your little one often cries for several nights.
- Make up your mind. If the parents give up, the baby will use crying as a weapon to force their will.
* Expert comments:
Tri Novida, Psi. explained, this method is quite risky. Babies can cry for hours because they feel insecure. Disturbances such as spitting up, vomiting, colic, and choking can make it even more uncomfortable and even painful. Also, in certain babies, this act is perceived as neglect and it is difficult to find security. It is very possible that the child will grow up to be a "hearty" person, in addition to making him a coward. This method also requires that babies have their own room.
2. CONTROL THE Cry
This method is widely used by parents in many countries and is quite effective in calming the baby after a few nights. The principle is almost the same as the first method, which is to let the baby cry. The baby will give up and eventually fall asleep. The difference is that this method provides a gradually extended lag time. Before starting, parents can decide how long the child will be allowed to cry, at least one minute.
After putting it on the bed, say goodnight and leave your little one. If the baby is still awake, come back within a predetermined time, for example 5 minutes. After the baby is soothed, leave again and come back for a longer time, and so on until the parents can leave the baby for at most 20 minutes.
Do it the next night. Gradually increase the amount of time before checking on the baby. For example, don't come back to see your little one before the 10 minutes have ended, then extend the time to a maximum of 25 minutes. On the third night, after 15 minutes the new mother can visit the baby in the crib, then the pause is extended to 30 minutes, and so on.
* Tips for success:
- Perform 4 ag support routines
The baby is calm (see box).
- Use a clock or stopwatch to accurately monitor the interval before checking the nursery.
- So that you don't get nervous yourself, try doing some fun activities while waiting for the break.
- Don't come back if the baby seems calm. The arrival of the parents only provokes the baby to cry again.
* Expert comments:
Although gentler than the first method, this method may not be effective, especially for babies with strong character. Babies can also feel cheated by their feelings. For your little one with a more cooperative character, this method can be tried. The advantage is that children can learn to separate from their parents, especially their mothers without losing their emotional closeness.
3. TURN TO REPEAT
This is the best method for parents who can't or can't bear to let their babies cry. Assure your little one, that you are always nearby and ask him to sleep. The application is as follows: say special words for bedtime, then walk away (can go out of the room). The baby may cry. If that happens come back and say a lullaby, then walk away. Repeat the steps until the baby is asleep.
* Tips for success:
- Perform 4 supporting routines so that the baby is calm (see box)
- Don't make eye contact or change your voice to be more persuasive.
This method, takes a long time on the first two nights. But parents must be calm and not be influenced. In addition, this method requires high stamina from parents, because it has to calm back and forth.
* Expert comments:
"This method is more gentle and humane," said Tri. Mothers can control their babies more
easy. The baby's sense of security is also maintained because he can still see the mother, even though it is a little distance. Parents' crib and crib can be in the same room.
4. GIVE A KISS
After putting the baby in bed, say a bedtime word and give it a kiss. Promise to come back and give him a kiss. Take a few steps back before giving a second kiss. If the baby moves to ask to be carried or cries, do not reprimand him, but lay back down and give him a goodbye kiss. After a few days, we will know the number of kisses and the time it will take.
* Tips for success:
- Don't give gifts other than kisses, such as hugs, conversation and milk.
- Make it clear, the baby will get a kiss if you lie still.
- Do not give a kiss if the baby is asleep, because it can wake him up.
* Expert comments:
This method can also be tried. Children feel cared for and loved. When your sense of security grows, your need to be kissed so you can sleep will decrease. He can calm himself if he wakes up.
5. REVERSE SLOWLY
Lay your little one down, then sit beside him until he falls asleep. In the following weeks, slowly move a little further away from the crib, until finally you don't have to be in the room while the baby is asleep. He may refuse every time the parent moves from the side of the bed. If the mother remains calm and firm, the rejection will end in just a night or two.
* Tips for success:
- Do not make eye contact or any activity with the baby. Read books so that it is difficult for him to get your attention.
- You can only move away if the baby is used to the previous position.
- Adjust the moving speed according to the baby's ability to handle it. If he's so anxious about your "move," then move just a little.
On the other hand, if he's not distracted, you can speed up your withdrawal.
* Expert comments:
This method can take a long time and drain your stamina. Suitable for mothers who are not tired. Emotional closeness, security, and feelings of being loved can still be felt by the baby. The five methods above can be applied as early as possible, even though there are parents who only apply them after the baby is 3 months old and over. So, it is the parents who know best when to start. One thing is for sure, no matter what method is applied, never give up.
5 THINGS YOU NEED TO NOTE:
Tri revealed, there are several things that need to be considered before the baby falls asleep, including:
1. GIVE ENOUGH FOOD / DRINKING
Many babies have trouble falling asleep or often wake up from sleep because they don't feel full. Therefore, fulfill the baby's need for food and drink before bed. If their physical needs are met, your little one won't wake up often in the middle of the night. What needs to be considered, in terms of dental health, the habit of giving milk at night should be stopped after the baby's teeth appear (around 6 months after the exclusive breastfeeding period). Instead, give him water if he is really thirsty or calm the baby to sleep again.
2. SELECTION OF THE RIGHT CLOTHES
Choose clothes for a comfortable sleep. Adjust the size to the baby's body.
Not too big but not too small which can make it cramped.
Choose the soft material. Comfortable nightgown helps baby t
slept all night.
3. CLEAN THE BODY
The body is sticky due to sweat and dirty after eating and playing, it is easy to make the baby's skin itch which disturbs his sleep. It's best to wipe the baby's body with a wet washcloth before going to bed. If necessary, apply the powder to the folds of the skin and apply the telon oil on the stomach and back. This method can make the baby comfortable and fall asleep quickly.
4. ORDER THE ROOM AND ROOM
Set the room atmosphere so that it is comfortable to sleep. This includes lighting, ventilation, color, temperature, and also the state of the box. You can put the box in the bedroom, beside the parent's bed or in a separate room.
Each of these options has advantages and disadvantages. If your baby is often restless and wakes up from sleep, prop him on the side with a small pillow or blanket (which can also be a soft towel) so that the baby feels someone is looking after him. Also avoid noise that makes it easy to wake up.
Do not use room deodorizers and mosquito repellents, which can make it congested. Mosquitoes often make babies sleep poorly. Wear a mosquito net that can protect babies from mosquito attacks.
5. WASTE WATER BEFORE SLEEPING
Wet and dirty pants can disturb the sleep of the baby. Therefore, try to make the baby defecate (BAB) or urinate (BAK) before going to bed. Indeed, this does not guarantee that the baby will not defecate and defecate at night, because whether or not a baby often defecates is influenced by the intake of drinks and food, as well as various other factors.
But at least, babies are accustomed to regulating their biological clock, including for bowel movements and bowels. So, so that the baby can remain "dry" do not make it a habit to give him milk when he wakes up at night or use pospak. The nutritional needs of babies 6 months and over should be met in the morning to 1-2 hours before going to bed at night.
4 SUPPORTING ROUTINES
So that babies can sleep regularly and soundly, Tri who practices at Aditya Medical Center Jakarta recommends parents to do some routines.
Choose the method that best suits your baby.
1. STORY
Fairy tales can make babies fall asleep quickly. Choose a fairy tale book that is funny, interesting, and short. Read it softly and repeatedly. But just so you know, not all babies can enjoy the story. The effectiveness of this method is also very dependent on the ability of parents to tell stories. If the baby doesn't seem interested, don't force it. Replace with books with more interesting pictures, less detail, or find other, more effective ways.
2. Sing and whisper the MESRA words
Complete the fairy tale with singing Nina Bobo or other similar songs that can calm the baby. Likewise words of affection that are spoken softly and softly. All of that can make the baby calm. Repeat these words each time you put the baby in bed. Calmness is the key to a baby sleeping soundly.
3. SET THE BEDROOM MUSIC
Beautiful music will lull the baby quickly, especially if the mother is used to listening to music since the baby is still in the womb. Some babies are successfully calmed by these methods. Give it a try, because music also has a therapeutic effect that can stimulate the baby's brain development.
4. CREATE A REGULAR LIFE PATTERN AND AVOID STRESS
Routines that babies do from waking up to before bedtime (bathing, eating, playing, defecating, cleaning their teeth and mouth, listening to fairy tales, etc.) help them find a rhythm in life. Regular rhythm enables the baby to anticipate situations so that he can gain emotional stability.
This stability greatly affects the quality of the baby's sleep. The mother's psychological condition also greatly affects the baby's emotions. A mother who is stressed will radiate negative energy to her baby so that she gets worried too. Anxiety has a clear effect on the quality of a baby's sleep. Therefore, in order for the baby to be calm, the mother must also maintain her mental state to remain stable.
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